Positive thinking concept.When you want to get pregnant, it’s all you think about. For couples in fertility treatment, it can be all you think about for a long time, making it an emotional roller coaster. It is normal in these cases to protect yourself from disappointment by not expecting a positive result. But thinking positive has some benefits you don’t want to overlook.

There is no evidence to support the idea that thinking positive helps you get pregnant. That being said, it certainly will not hurt your chances. Furthermore, a healthy positive attitude is important to your health and especially to your emotional state. Being positive helps keep your energy up and your spirits high, and it contributes to keeping stress hormones at lower levels.

So how do you stay positive, particularly when fertility treatment is a difficult journey that requires patience? How can you keep the negative thoughts and their negative effects at bay?

Here are a few tips to keep your thinking positive:

  1. Seek positive surroundings and people. It’s important to surround yourself with encouraging, happy people and places. Negative energy saps yours, and your body needs all the energy it can get to help you get pregnant.
  2. Say positive things aloud, or read them on note cards. Think of five positive phrases to repeat to yourself daily (silently if the out-loud part feels strange to you). Also, write positive words and phrases on note cards, and place them where you can see them throughout the day as reminders to keep your thoughts happy and your energy high.
  3. Allow yourself to be negative, but set limits. Obviously, no one can be positive all the time. When you are upset, frustrated or sad, go ahead and feel that way. It is important to allow those feelings to come out. However, limit the time you indulge these feelings; otherwise, they can move in and take hold.
  4. Let go of blame. Having someone or something to blame isn’t going to make you get pregnant any faster, so don’t hang on to the need for it. Whatever it is that you wish you, your partner, your job or your doctor had done, let go of the blame and focus on the future.
  5. Learn as much as you can. Some negative feelings come from a feeling of no control or no idea what to do in a situation. Educating yourself and arming your mind with as many facts as possible allows you to be proactive and to find your optimism again.

When it comes to getting pregnant, positive thinking is essential to your emotional health and general well-being. Whether you are in fertility treatment or trying to get pregnant naturally, thinking positive is a great way to give your mind the energy it needs to help your body bring you the family you always pictured for yourself.


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